How to feel closer to my partner and reduce fights

Crazy cycle. That’s what I call it when couples regularly find themselves bickering about anything and everything. In part 1 of this series I discuss how that’s reflective of their emotional bank accounts running at or near a zero balance. The higher the balance in each other’s emotional bank account, the easier it is to give grace to each other and not be offended so easily. But how do you make deposits into each other’s bank accounts that are meaningful? Ever heard of the 5 Love Languages by Dr Gary Chapman? Let me explain the basic concept.

Each of you has a preferred way of receiving love. And, it’s usually the preferred way you like to give love to your partner. The problem is that it’s kind of rare that your partner prefers the same love language that you have. Therefore, when you think you’re giving love in a meaningful way, you’re actually giving love with the least meaning in the eyes of your partner. 

Go to this website to take the test for free: www.5lovelanguages.com. It’ll rank your preferred ways of receiving love. Once you know what your partner’s love language is, make it your priority to love them in that manner while sprinkling in the other forms of love as well. 

Once you begin giving love to you partner in their preferred manner, how do you make it resonate long term for them? Check out part 3 of this series.